Honestly, I am not sure where I would be today without coaching. I know one thing for sure – alone and lonely! For many years I carried around a lot of self-loathing. Naturally, I didn’t realize that was what was going on, because my frustration and anger was directed outward – to all those people who weren’t doing things right.  I thought I was pretty subtle about these feelings as I never overtly confronted anyone, but I was really good with the sarcastic barbs. I could shoot those suckers with some true accuracy. Truly, I don’t think I was fooling anyone. I blamed everyone for my circumstances, I was unhappy all the time, which was illuminated when my daughter said to me “mom you’re never happy anymore” and I didn’t like being around people, because I could always find a reason why I didn’t like them.

Can you think of anyone in your life like that – always having a negative attitude, blaming everyone and everything for their current circumstances, always having something negative to say? I think we all have someone like that in our lives or recognize that in ourselves (even if you aren’t willing to admit it) – I know I wasn’t when my mother was kind enough to point it out – naturally I told her she was wrong.

Luckily, I filed away the comments of my daughter and mother and when I was ready and willing to face the truth (by acknowledging what they said to be true) - I found life coaching, which was a true life-saver for me. I was introduced to life coaching right when I was ready to really start taking a hard look at my life (as they say when the student is ready the teacher will appear) and I didn’t like what I saw. If it weren’t for the support of my sister, I never would have had been introduced to the whole life coaching concept. She was willing to support me when I was going through my divorce and suggested we go to a weekend workshop in Philadelphia. It was the most amazing experience of my life – I experienced such change and awareness at that workshop I was amazed. I truly connected with the people there – this was huge for me since you remember I didn’t like people to this point. Thankfully, the experience didn’t end there; I had the good fortune to continue the journey for the next 6 months with my coaching group, which was formed from the members of the work shop, over the phone. And when I still wanted to experience more coaching I asked the coach if she would take me on as a client. That was over six years ago. Wow, sometimes it feels like yesterday. I’d hate to think where my life might be if I hadn’t had this support. I would most likely be a bitter person, who hates her life and the people who had the misfortune of getting in my path of self-destruction. 

Learning to love myself again wasn’t the only benefit I received from this experience; I was also able to finally identify why I was wandering from one job opportunity to another (trust me you would die if you saw my resume) never feeling fulfilled – feeling like there was so much more I could be doing with my life. That coaching weekend gave me the answer to that struggle as well – I could easily see myself in the woman who was standing in the front of the room conducting the workshop. I decided that weekend that I wanted to be her.  That is when I made the commitment to become a coach and help people just like me to transform their lives.  That commitment began a brand new challenge for me – a huge disconnect between my burning desire to share the magic of coaching with every woman who wanted it and making a living as a coach. I kept going over and over in my mind trying to find an answer to this internal struggle because I truly believe that everyone should be able to experience the magic regardless of their financial resources. When I came across the Compass website and listened to Kim Fulcher say these exact words to me I knew I had found my answer – I had to become a Compass Representative and share this community with everyone.

I think for me the real lesson learned during this journey was reaching out for support. Going it alone and being strong didn’t work for me, but when I reached out received support, my life transformed.  Maybe yours can too!

If you can identify with my story in anyway then I encourage you to become a part of the Compass Community – start your journey to self love today!